Bloom where you are planted. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase and quite frankly it’s a little overused. That doesn’t make it any less true however and this spring I’ve really been pondering the depth of its meaning. What does it look like? How do I make it sustainable? After much musing, I’ve landed on these 5 ways to bloom where you’re planted.
5 Ways to Bloom Where You’re Planted (and the Ultimate Spring Dress)
First off, I want to make it clear that I haven’t mastered the art of blooming….yet! In fact, I’m far from it. Even though I may not have mastered it, I do have a lot of experience with it, so this young (ish) grasshopper will keep striving to bloom where she’s planted until experience equals expertise.
Basically, when life deals situations that are less than ideal, it’s making the most of them. I think for people who are naturally positive this is a fairly easy task. For the rest of us, the ones that tend to look at the very worst thing that could happen in any scenario, it’s harder to see the good right away. It’s harder to “bloom”. But it is possible.
1. Have a long-term perspective.
Reminding myself that the situation isn’t forever and whatever it is that I don’t like is only a phase, helps me not get too depressed. This too shall pass!
2. Find the good and dig in.
There really is good in nearly all situations. It might just take a little digging to find it. Maybe it’s a hobby or passion that you can explore or a new relationship that is formed. Once you find that thing that brings you joy, cling to it and suddenly your situation will take on a whole different shape.
After my divorce, for me, that “thing” was beach volleyball, and during this struggle with infertility, it was blogging. Two huge parts of my life that add so much and that probably never would have happened if I didn’t experience those awful situations.
It’s also seeing the good in the small details. Some days, just acknowledging that I had fresh water, shelter and clean air to breathe was all I could cling to, but that was enough for that day.
3. Have self-discipline in your thought life.
This one is especially hard as self-discipline has never been a particular strength ;-). Controlling those negative thoughts that can overwhelm is super important though! When I stop to pay attention to what’s going on inside my head, I fully realize how much negative self-talk I subject myself to. When I’m being intentional, I’ll identify those thoughts and correct them as they pop up. Sometimes it’s every few minutes, and sometimes it’s much more spread apart but as I practice positive self-talk, my mindset and mood definitely improve.
4. Be kind to yourself.
Truly. Self-care. It’s so easy to eat poorly, become a couch potato, and just sit in a self-induced funk endlessly. I know that I will start to feel better about myself, and life in general if I’m doing (even small) things to take care of myself. Take walks, take naps, just take the time to nourish your body and soul. Sometimes, it means buying the dress (just not too many dresses, haha).
5. Give yourself grace.
On the flip side of self-care, there are (lots of) times when you’re not going to make the best decision for the day. The worst thing is to then punish yourself for it afterward. We’re all navigating this crazy life as best we can, and we’re all taking different windy paths along the way. You’re the only one that can walk it. So go easy on yourself. This is one of the best pieces of advice I received from a mentor during one of my phases where the garden was pretty thorny, and I most definitely did not want to plant in. There is such freedom in knowing that it’s ok to not do it perfectly. Even if you are almost an angel ;-).
Right now is a pretty great phase in my life but there are still some significant things that if I were to focus on could really get me down and depressed. So I’m continuing to try to put these into practice so I can more fully bloom.
Just me, a girly dress and a baby bump. Because if I had to put clothes to this idea, I think it would look a lot like this. Fresh and full of life, with delight in the little details 😉
Wayf Oakfield Embroidered Dress for Nordstrom
Kendra Scott Elton in Rose Quartz and Silver