How do you feel about date nights?
With the holidays just around the corner, my schedule has already started to turn a little hectic. I find that if I’m not intentional about anything from meal planning to working out it just doesn’t happen. This is true year round, and the holidays just magnify it! So I figured this is a great time to re commit to date nights.
My marriage is a little over three years, and some of the best advice we’ve been given is to make space for date night. It sounds so easy and a little trivial compared to all the harder things in marriage, but it’s the smallest things that can make the biggest difference!
5 To Do’s of Date Night
Make it a priority
This is the hardest part for us. We put it in our calendar, but then other things come up that seem more important and it gets cancelled. We know some couples that pick a certain day of the week and set it in stone. That is a great way of making it a priority, but it’s just not practical for us. We will check our schedule for the upcoming week and set one night (or day) aside that works best depending on that week. The important part is keeping it even when last-minute things come up that aren’t of vital importance. I’ve also heard that making it a habit pre-kids helps for when it gets even harder to get away after kids!
Make it persistent
Every.single.week. Missed weeks start to accumulate, and before you know it it’s been months since good quality time with each other.
Make it practical
Every couple is in a different situation. Kids, finances, health, and all sorts of things come into play and it is not always possible to have an extravagant night out week after week. A Fresh Start on a Budget has a GREAT list of 50 inexpensive date ideas. If it’s been an exhausting week have a night in! Many of our date nights are pretty chill, but even if it’s dinner in with movie, the point is to make time for just each other.
Make it pleasurable
This is kind of given, but have fun with it and change it up! You want this to be something you look forward to week after week. Step outside your routine and experience something new with each other. Life hands out enough lemons as is so being able to go to each other as a place of refuge and laughter is all-important!
Make it unplugged
Last but definitely not least! It is so irritating when we are out and checking our phones. We have to be super intentional about turning off our devices because it’s second nature at this point to constantly check in (especially bloggers)! Force yourself to make eye contact and have real conversation. Your social networks will still be there at the end of the date I promise!
How often are you going on date nights? What tips do you use to make them successful? Any favorite date night ideas?
This season, as you are making your list and checking it twice, don’t forget that date nights are nice 😉